“It is a great work to seek to know ourselves as we are; but then we must work to know ourselves as we should be. These two sciences are linked and must continually occupy us. A third science comes after these two, and is perhaps the most difficult of all. It is that once we have come to know what we should be, we must work unceasingly to become it.” … Louis-Claude de Saint-Martin (18th century philosopher)
(I happen to be staying in the childhood home where Saint-Martin lived … so cool!)
You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!