Divorce, Choices and Daily Affirmations

 

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I’d like to share a little of my history, which includes my divorce, however, this will be one of the few times I reference it because this is a positive blog and there’s not much positive to say about divorce.  Two & a half years ago my husband moved everything out while I was out of town for the weekend, picked me up from the airport, and, well, we never slept in the same bed again.  It was extremely painful.  We tried for several months to work things out in therapy, but at some point it was clear that my 27 year marriage was over.  Now I had to make a choice.  I could choose to wallow and feel sorry for myself, or I could choose to be grateful for the 33 years (and two great kids) we had together.  Of course, family & friends are the main reason I got through it, but daily affirmations & choosing happiness went a long way in making it easier to navigate.

In order to try to lift the fog from my life I started journaling, which I’ve never done before.  It was so incredibly helpful to get my thoughts down on paper and out of my head.  I highly recommend it when you’re at a crossroads in your life.  I also started collecting daily affirmations.  One of the first things I did was to put the serenity prayer on my desktop wallpaper…. “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference….Reinhold Niebuhr”  I, literally, read it and said it every morning when I sat down at my computer… and it’s still on here today.  Very powerful words!

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In choosing to be positive I had quite a revelation when friends, & family, questioned the end of our relationship. If it could happen to us, a very PDA couple, what about them? My answer was, & still is…”I hope you are lucky enough to have 33 great years with the same person…and two amazing kids. Some people have terrible marriages that last less than 5 yrs.” We weren’t just lucky; we worked at it, as you have to do in marriage.  We had a great long run, but in the end choices are made that change the trajectory of lives.  My kids are both healthy and in very happy relationships of their own….and for that, I am very grateful.

In the end it’s how you choose to react to life’s changes (along with some help from the daily reading of positive affirmations) that become your own self fulfilling prophecy…at least that’s how it worked for me.

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Here are two of my favorite daily affirmations… “If you’re grateful for what you have, you’ll always have enough…unknown.” and “You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails….Albert Einstein”   I’ve accumulated so many positive affirmations they could probably make for a really long blog post, but instead, I’m going to just randomly post them under the “daily affirmations” heading above and I truly hope that they strike a cord with you and help get you through some of your own crazy times.

PS… I’m new to the blogging world, so most of the categories above don’t have any content…YET.  They will…as soon as I get some more posts going….stay tuned!

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

10 Comments

  1. What a perfect time of year to remind us that, even when faced with difficult circumstances, one can still maintain an attitude of gratitude.

  2. You are an inspiration to us all…you always see the positive and move on…’cause really what choice do we all have? Love you and I LOVE your new blog…

  3. The Albert Einstein quote is the one I keep saying, over and over and over again. And you ARE amazing. While we don’t ever quite know how we would react in similar situations, I imagine myself bitter and vengeful were I to go through what you’ve been through these past few years. But then again, I’m bitter and vengeful if someone cuts me off in traffic, so it doesn’t take much.

  4. What a wonderful way to spread love & light through the internet world! Thank you for your wonderful insights and your commitment to writing them down for us to have reminders and lessons. You are a treasure!

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