Change by seeing a future you? getting unstuck

Okay, so you know I’ve moved 4 times in 4 years and all were a new learning experience. The last place I lived was a tiny studio and my bed, was my couch, was my chair. I got into the habit of grabbing my phone off the window ledge in the morning and checking emails, instagram, texts…whatever….and by the time I was done almost 1/2 hour had passed. This is NOT good when you’re up at 5 to get to practice at 6…I felt like I was always rushing, and I was literally 10 minutes away.

Now that I’ve moved back into my former home, which is 20 minutes away from the boathouse, I was still in the same bad habit & sometimes late for practice. I needed to change it and just get my mornings back! ….but it took some commitment.

I didn’t do anything for more than a year and somehow made it work, not successfully! My mornings seemed so much more frantic and hectic than those in the past. Then I read a few articles about changing your habits by seeing your future self…and I thought I’d give it a try. They say it takes 21 days to change a habit and I figured I could at least give it a go. Here’s what I did…

On rowing practice days I don’t even look at my phone when I get up. I turn off the alarm, get dressed, have a quick bite and get in the car. I check if I have any “rowing related” texts while in the car and then just enjoy my ride to the beach with music or a podcast (I recently finished S-town, which was great!)

On the days that I don’t have rowing practice….instead of grabbing my phone & spending 1/2 hour in bed, I grab my earplugs and meditate for at least 10 minutes…or I just get out of bed without looking at my phone. I recently bought a jumprope and 6 lb weight ball and have tried to work out at least a little bit….or I love my 3 mile walk in the ‘hood on my off-rowing mornings. Again, I do this before looking at texts/email/instagram.

Basically I’ve tried to disconnect a little bit in the mornings and it’s been heavenly!

Here are a few helpful things I gleaned from articles….

  • Choose what it is you want to change and write it down. It can be something really simple that can change your life even in the slightest way….or it can be something bigger, but you need to take small steps to accomplish that goal.
  • Have faith in yourself and your ability to choose that goal…so important! If you believe you can do something, there’s a greater chance that you can…self fulfilling prophecy!
  • Visual…truly visualize…yourself in the future after you’ve accomplished it. For me it was visualizing not rushing and just being more relaxed in the morning.
  • Come up with ways you can accomplish this by making small changes. Mine was..”don’t look at the phone before I get out of bed” which at first was remarkably difficult…yours might be “I’m going to make my bed every day” …which, by the way, is a great way to have a sense of accomplishment every day according to this article!
  • For something big, like losing weight, it helps to string together small accomplishments, like “I’m going to walk for 15 minutes every day” and once you’ve accomplished that, add another 15 minutes.

These small steps, strung together, can become bigger things. AA & Weight Watchers use this strategy of small, clear steps or rules to achieve success…and keep checking in to make sure you’re staying on track. Here are a few daily affirmations (you know how I love them) to help keep you on track…or get you back on track.

  • One I’ve learned in WW… “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got.” Apparently it’s been credited to Henry Ford and Tony Robbins too.
  • What will matter is that you acted, that you made a contribution, and that you decided to do something. Or that you didn’t.
  • A lack of planning is basically just stalling.

Hope this helps. I sure have some bigger goals that I’d like to achieve, but I did get quite a sense of accomplishment by making this small change to my mornings!

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Motivational Monday….Choose Happy

I’ve chosen to be happy because it is good for my health….Voltaire

…that is one happy face! I’ll try not to bore you with a million pics of Zoey 🙂

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Foodie Adventure Friday…Cooking in Capistrano

When I took the train recently down to San Juan Capistrano with some friends we came across a cute place that offered cooking classes. It’s called Tspoons. In the weeks that followed I occasionally looked at their lineup of classes and then one day just decided to book one. I’ve always loved risotto and wanted to learn how to make it…and the Gnocchi, Ravioli and Risotto class seemed like a great line-up of foods to explore.

And so it was last Saturday that my friend, Carre, and I hopped on the train and got off in San Juan Capistrano for an evening of cooking. We went a little early so we could explore the Los Rios District shops, which were closed on the last train trip down.

We both really enjoyed the cooking class! It was a little bit different than other cooking classes either of us have taken. We made all the sauces, raviolis and gnocchis, but all the ingredients had been measured out beforehand (mis-en-place) and placed on cookie sheets below the prep surfaces. One other different feature we enjoyed….we started cooking all the recipes (Wild Mushroom Ravioli with Marsala Cream Sauce, Fresh Pea and Asparagus Risotto topped with garlic butterflied shrimp, Creamy chicken and summer greens gnocchi stew and, lastly, Fried Nutella Ravioli) but just when you think it’s feeling like a long class and you’re still not done yet, the chefs invite you to sit down while they finish the recipes and serve you. It was the perfect blend of cooking, relaxing and socializing. I think it would be really fun to go with a big group.

the atmosphere
Chef Dominique….we made the Nutella ravioli
making the Marsala cream sauce
cooking the Wild Mushroom Ravioli that we made…takes less than a minute
first course done…

have a seat…we’ll finishing cooking!
yummy risotto with shrimp…my favorite dish
gnocchi and chicken stew
finishing touches on dessert
Fried Nutella Ravioli

I’ll definitely be going again and I’d recommend this place…along with a day in SJC. They’ve really turned Capistrano into a day-trip destination. There’s the aforementioned Los Rios District, which has some adorable shops, a few restaurants that I’d still like to try and a petting zoo; this cooking class; Swallows Inn, a famous, loud, dive bar; The Old Barn Antique Mall; and of course the famous Mission San Juan Capistrano…..not to mention the fun train ride down there!

What adventure will you be going on this weekend?!

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I see a RED door and I want it painted BLACK

dublin door

Now you have that Rolling Stones song in your head, huh?! This post really has nothing to do with the song…. it’s about the color of doors and the history behind them. Join me on this journey!

I LOVE my fire engine red dutch door…and the vintage life preserver enhances the red and conveys my love of the water! When I decided on the color over 15 years ago I just thought it seemed warm and inviting and just fun! Red is my favorite color. I was talking with my friend Mary Kay the other night and we got on the subject of front stoops and doors (there’s a whole history of stoops and the amount of steps on it…another post). I decided to just look up some info and found out some fun facts.

St. Marks in Yorkville/Manhattan, NYC…its interesting that the Deutsche Ev Kirche had its origins as German Protestant with a single doctrine compatible with National Socialism….to me, it looks like a Star of David above that door….just sayin’?

Biblically red doors are part of the Passover story, when God commanded the Israelites to cover their doors in the blood of the lamb. But on a more upbeat note…red doors, historically, have meant “welcome!” Back in the horse and buggy days it was a sign of a safe place to rest & stay. During the Underground Railroad era, doors were painted red to guide slaves to a place of refuge and safety. In Scotland it is said that you painted your door red when your mortgage was paid off (that is not the case for me!). The Chinese consider it a lucky color and it is a color used during the Chinese New Year….and lastly, Feng Shui practitioners say that a red door invites positive energy. So….what do some other front door colors mean?

Ireland

White…signifies purity, innocence and perfectionism

…also Ireland, in Connacht, where the movie Quiet Man was filmed

Black….classic and chic

Balboa Island…yes, I know its blurry….I need a new phone!

Pink…happiness, understanding, affection and nurturing
Orange…warm, positive energy and creativity

London, England

Yellow…intellect, joy and energy
Green…outdoorsy, timeless and peaceful

London, England
twin doors in SF

Blue…health, healing, understanding, sky, ocean, and tranquility

Paris, France

Purple…historically associated with wealth, dignity and royalty
Gray…confident and classic
Brown….organic and earthy, casual and relaxing

Paris, France… so beautiful
London, England
London, England
a cool door in Montreal

In looking through my pics, I have sooooo many more pictures of doors. I guess I love what they evoke…come in, stay awhile. They all seem so welcoming! I hope you enjoyed this little journey of doors!

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Foodie Friday…two restaurants, three countries

Back in 2010 when Taylor was studying abroad in Forence, Italy we got several restaurant recommendations…one being Acqua Al 2…and “you have to try the trio steak sampler”

So, when I was planning the trip, I made reservations here and that started a chain of dining adventures that was so much fun!  We did indeed have the “Assaggio di Secondi A trio of house steaks” which consisted of steak, separated in three servings with three different sauces…blueberry reduction, balsamic reduction and green peppercorn/brandy cream sauce. OMG…so good. It was back in 2010, so I don’t remember what everyone had, but I know we loved everything!

Then we found out there were two more…one in Washington DC and one in Old Town, San Diego. So Taylor and I drove her car back to NY for her senior year of college and stopped in DC on the way. Let’s go to Acqua Al 2! We did, got the steak sampler again, among other things and it didn’t disappoint.

Of course I live in California, so we went to the one in San Diego too…just not sure when. Unfortunately that one has closed now. I just thought it was cool that we went to the only three restaurants in the world opened by the same group. It wasn’t like going to McDonald’s…or some other restaurant chain, all over the world, if you know what I mean! Unfortunately I don’t have any personal pics from these restaurants, since my computer died long before I saved those pics….so these “stock” photos off the internet will have to do.

When I was in NYC in July of 2015, I finally went to a restaurant I’d been yearning to go to, Buvette. Such an adorable little bistro, with really good food and I knew there was one in Paris, which I assumed was the original. I loved it and went back with A&K when I was there in December 2015 and yearned for the day I could visit the original in Paris.

Well, last month I was able to visit Buvette in the Montmarte area of Paris and, although it is cute, I think the one in NYC is cuter and more charming….and I found out that the original is actually the one in NYC…not Paris. I’d recommend going if you’re ever in NYC….or Paris too for that matter.

So, there you have it….two restaurants, three countries! Now I have to find another restaurant with locations in far-off lands. Do you know of any? I’m always looking for that next adventure…and good food!

Have a great weekend!

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

Motivational Monday…Possibilities

“Without leaps of imagination or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all is a form of planning.”….Gloria Steinem

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Foodie Friday…Cool & Green Fruit Salad

I don’t eat much fruit, I think because I’m lazy and don’t want to cut it up….and I’m not a fan of those fruit salads that have cool whip or marshmallow stuff…but I love this green fruit salad. My friend, Melissa, brought it to book club and it was a hit. It’s the perfect refreshing summer salad and I’ve made it several times! Reprinted with her permission….enjoy!

Cool & Green Fruit Salad

  • 1/2 honeydew, cut into chunks (or use one of those little melon-baller gadgets)
  • 1-1/3 cups whole green grapes
  • 2 kiwi, peeled and sliced
  • 2 TBS frozen limeade concentrate (thawed)
  • 2 TBS minced fresh mint
  • 1/3 cup blackberries, raspberries or both

Combine all the ingredients, except berries. Add the berries and mix gently. Serve slightly chilled.

That’s it…Bon Apetit!

…and meet the newest addition to my home…Zoey!

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Motivational Monday…decide

Every accomplishment starts with a decision to try!

So proud of my team for winning three gold medals this past weekend…with some close seconds & thirds….and great overall effort by everyone! It all started with their decision to try and the hard work that followed.

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!