Motivational Monday…Friends

It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them….Ralph Waldo Emerson

They talked in the shorthand of old friends
and shared memories.

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

Spontanaity…a trip to Pacific Grove…& a new wedding venue!

About a month ago, my sister, my cousin, a friend and I got an invitation to a mutual friend’s 60th birthday up in the Monterey/Carmel area. These are the friend’s we stay with yearly for the Big Sur Marathon weekend and we all wanted to go, but some had obligations on Friday night and/or Sunday night and just didn’t know how we’d swing it, so initially thought, sadly, that we’d all RSVP “no”. Then we just texted each other back & forth about heading up early Saturday and coming back early Sunday and decided to go for it! It’s only about a 5 to 5-1/2 hour drive and we all wanted to be there to celebrate this fabulous friend! I found an Airbnb that we could reserve for one night in Pacific Grove…..bonus, because it’s usually a 2 to 3 night minimum at most places.

I headed up to my sister’s after work on Friday for the added reward of dinner at Katsu-ya in Studio City, probably my favorite place for sushi. I was a little early, so I also stopped in to check out a brand new pizza place called LBK, an offshoot of Luzzo’s in Brooklyn, NY, right near Austin & Kate….small world! I chatted with the owner for quite awhile and found out all about his connection to the NY restaurant and that they were still, kind of, in the soft opening phase. They had opened a week before and sold out their first Friday night, and then couldn’t open again until Monday because their proprietary dough takes three days to “cure” or “rise”! I bought a couple of slices to take to my sister’s house as an appetizer and they declared that it’ll be their go-to pizza place…and it’s literally right down the street from her home in Studio City. If you’re up in the valley you must try these two restaurants! You won’t be disappointed.

We got up bright & early Saturday morning, leaving at 7am….and we were sitting, enjoying lunch in Pacific Grove at 12:30. The weather was perfect, with a light breeze and the familiar sound of the seagulls welcoming us to the area.

Did a little shopping, checked into our adorable Airbnb and then spent the afternoon relaxing, napping, reading, or going for a walk.

The birthday party was so much fun and held at an amazing new venue in Monterey called The Barns at Cooper Molera…adjacent to the historic Cooper-Molera Adobe. It’s everything you envision for a barn dance, a wedding or any special event….twinkle lights, majestic barn, high ceilings and great indoor & outdoor space. If you’re on the lookout for a wedding venue, this is it! The food was amazing and it was fun to reconnect with old friends & meet some new ones (met someone who grew up near where I live in OC and her mom lives down near the beach…small world!) They are also opening a new restaurant, Cello, and coffee shop/bakery, Alta Bakery & Cafe, next to the adobe/barns later this year or early 2019. That’s where we’ll be going when we’re back up there in April for marathon weekend.

….with our Sneaky Pete bison friend

Sunday morning plans included a walk (run for the others) along the water from Lover’s Point towards the lighthouse, followed by breakfast at The Red House Cafe, an adorable converted cottage with an abundance of ambience and coziness.

how cute is this little restaurant!!

I never get tired of that walk along the craggy, gorgeous coastline on Monterey Bay with fabulous homes on one side and majestic cypress trees sitting on the water’s edge. It really takes your breath away! The homes in Pacific Grove are from a fairy tale, each one cuter than the next, and so many of them have little placards on them with a name and date…what I assume is the original owner and date built, because they’re pretty old.

Take a stroll with me through Pacific Grove….

perfect snack for a road trip…or a stroll along the water

….and here’s a very blurry picture of us with the birthday girl (can’t be picky when you’re asking others to take a group shot of all of you??!!)

Another weekend, another fun trip! Be spontaneous….and make that trip for an important milestone for a friend..you won’t regret it and you’ll have memories that last long after the trip is over!!

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

Motivational Monday…LIVE!

Don’t live for the weekend, find joy in what you do every day…tomorrow is not promised!

(thanks to Taylor for this one!…
although I do tend to pack alot into my weekends, I’m grateful for every day)

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

Motivational Monday…don’t Labor today

malibu nov/2017

You have enough.
You do enough.
You are enough.

Relax and enjoy this Labor Day!

malibu nov/2017

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

Routine vs Change?

Can you like change and routine at the same time? Absolutely!
While most people hate Mondays, I look forward to the routine of Pizza Monday, which I’ve been doing for over 15 years now!! Sure, sometimes it’s just me, but I still love the predictability of it…and Monday Night Football in the Fall! Another routine I love is Sunday mornings! I don’t set my alarm, I walk out to the driveway in my jammies to get the NY Times, put some bacon in the oven (have you ever made bacon in the oven? 325 for about 25 min-1/2 hour…so much easier than watching the stove), make some tea and put on the Carla Bruni channel on Pandora (I know…I don’t speak French, but I love having it in the backround on Sundays). It’s the perfect relaxing routine morning to me.
On the other hand, I love change too!

I love traveling, which is almost never routine! I like meeting new people, discovering new places…always learning. Let’s face it, in life, change is inevitable. People come into & out of our lives, technology moves at lightening speed and is changing daily…and our passions can change with the passing of time. So, why, I was wondering, are some people averse to change, while others embrace it? In looking into it, it seems that the difference lies in fear.

Fear is a very powerful emotion. It is one of the most common reasons for resistance to change because it stops you from taking any action at all. You think, ‘if i don’t…insert something uncomfortable here…then everything will stay the same, I won’t ruffle any feathers, status quo and I won’t have to deal with the consequences.’ Sure, there’s self doubt, anxiety, fear of the unknown or failure and even guilt with some decisions that will incite change. Well, what if the opposite happened? You decide do to that uncomfortable thing, make that uncomfortable decision? Maybe great things will happen…but you’ll never know if you don’t take the leap. The reward that comes from making changes can be amazing! …and even if you fail, you’ve learned something from the experience, right?? (disclaimer…There are definitely some people who embrace change that are narcissistic, with no regard to how it impacts others…I’m not talking about that kind of change!)

Unless I’m traveling, I rarely miss the routine of pizza Monday or Sunday mornings. Most people crave and need routine of some sort to give order to their life. Habits and routines make us more efficient…you know where your reading glasses are, where to find the pen & paper, and which drawer you put your socks in. You’d be searching all day if you didn’t have some sort of habit/routine. At my age it’s nice to know things are in their place because it’s bad enough that I can’t remember, “Why’d I come into this room??”

But, go ahead and try to embrace change…the possibilities are endless! I’m looking forward to the change of moving back to the beach in the somewhat near future, while still retaining the routine of watching Rowan and pizza Monday in the best neighborhood,  traveling to Brooklyn every couple of months to see Austin, Kate & Jude, and Sunday mornings. Above all, the main constants in one’s life of great friends and family make every routine comforting & worthwhile, and every change exhilerating & exciting.

“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered,
you will never grow”
….Ralph Waldo Emerson
You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

Theater (or theatre) Thursday

The movies are starting back up here in Orange County with the OC Film Society…of which I’ve been a member for over 4 years. I joined when I lived at the beach because it’s a perfect solo activity to do (please tell me you don’t talk in the theater!!) and it’s just a fun escape to go to the movies. I love getting that “screening” invitation email before it’s released in theaters…many Sundance favorites & Oscar contenders. So here’s what I’ve seen lately (not all with OCFS)…and one on Netflix!
Mama Mia…It’s a fun, entertaining movie! I just wanna be on a Greek Isle dancing down near the water with a bunch of friends! I should have tried to be an extra in that movie…LOL!
The Wife…thought provoking and one of those movies that would be so interesting to discuss afterwards….the downside of theater-going alone. Glenn Close and Jonathan Pryce were great.
Juliet, Naked…Stupid title…but it does relate to the movie! Nothing earth shattering, just a cute story worth seeing, with lovely performances by Rose Byrne and Ethan Hawke.
Last tango in Halifax (Netflix)…my friend, Suzanne, who is from Liverpool, recommended and I’m hooked. The scenery makes you long for the English countryside and the characters are charming. The first episode is a little slow, with character development, but stick with it, I think you’ll enjoy. Suzanne said she felt like she lost some friends when it was over!
Have a great weekend…Thursday is the new Friday!!

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

Motivational Monday…Irish birthday blessing

To sweet baby Rowan on her first birthday...

May you always walk in sunshine
May you never want for more,
May Irish angels rest their wings
Right beside your door.

lá breithe sona dhuit!
(That’s Happy Birthday in Irish)

Love…jammie

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!