Wandering Wednesday…Bugs on the windshield!

“forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet
and the winds long to play with your hair”
… Kahlil Gibran

We’re all getting tired of the coronavirus, masks and sheltering in place. I can’t wait to get on a plane again and visit my son, daughter-in-law and two granddaughters in NY. Until that time comes, I was itching to get-out-of-Dodge, even if only for one day. Last week, on a whim, my friend, Val, and I decided to take a 36 hour escape up the coast. I recently got a cute red convertible Mini Cooper and couldn’t wait to take it out for it’s first long car ride … and inaugural ‘bugs on the windshield’. What better place than the Central Coast of California.

We set out at 6:30 am, masks in hand (…and on our face at every stop along the way) and felt giddy as the ocean came into view just above Ventura. I made believe we were on the coast of the Mediterranean! We stopped in Montecito at Bree’osh for some breakfast pastries and continued up to the Los Olivos/Solvang/Santa Ynez area. We reached Los Olivos at 9:30, strolled around J Woeste, a charming garden store, for a bit, got some coffee and basically lost ourselves in the change of scenery. Although we’ve both been up there numerous times before, it was as if we were discovering it for the first time, ecstatic in our gratitude for our “cambio de aire” (thanks Mimi for the perfect phrase). We went wine tasting at Gainey vineyard and it was heaven. Gainey’s wine tasting, in this time of Covid, is no contact, so the masked server brings you the “flight” of wines in tiny carafes all at once on a tray with a card that has information on each wine so we could serve ourselves. All the tables were outside, facing the vineyard and all spaced more than 10 feet apart. The wine tasting reservation is for one hour and before we arrived we thought “One hour?…we can’t wine taste for an hour!” We ended up going over our hour allotted time just soaking up the gorgeous weather and scenery.

Every place we stopped required masks, social distancing and offered hand sanitizers outside before you walked in. It felt safe. The only time we were unmasked was in the car and when we were eating or drinking.

We had a delicious lunch at Dos Carlitos (chips and salsa are my weakness!), headed to the hotel, walked around Solvang for a bit and realized it was time to leave for our hour-and-a-half drive up to Paso Robles to see the light installation Sensorio. My friends had recommended it and we loved the idea of an outdoor work of art! We ate dinner at Taste, a yummy craft eatery with an interesting concept that had some good reviews. You can order a couple items off the menu as you normally would, but most dishes are ordered as Trio, Duo or Quartet, so it’s like tapas … a little bit of everything. My favorite way to eat! I had some amazing brussel sprouts with bacon, goat cheese and balsamic (I recreated them again at home a few days later); one slider; and a caesar salad. Small portions of each made it the perfect meal. Check out their menu … I’d recommend! There’s also one in SLO.

not my meal, but you get the idea

Sensorio is a really cool outdoor art installation that you walk through (one-way, spaced apart, masks required). They look like white sticks with bulbs on the end, until they start lighting up right after sunset, and then fully come alive around 9pm. The sunset alone is worth the wait … stunning with all the gorgeous oak trees that gave the city of Paso Robles it’s name … El Paso de Robles, the pass of the Oaks. Pictures tell the best stories. Enjoy…

We got back to our hotel around 11, woke up leisurely the following morning and headed home. We took a detour to stroll a bit in Carpinteria, and then again in Oxnard, off the 101, to pick up Hwy 1 for a lazy, beautiful drive along the water through Malibu and Santa Monica. We were going to stop for lunch with a view of the water, but sadly, Gladstone’s, our restaurant of choice, was closed, so we headed back towards the 405 and on homeward. We were back home by 3:00, feeling invigorated and ready to head back to work on Monday.

It wasn’t the usual summer adventures I’d been hoping for but as Val said, “When there’s not a lot of time, you take the time to enjoy it!” Couldn’t have said it better myself.

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

Motivational Monday … Comparison?

If comparison is the thief of joy, then Lord, help me to not compare my life today to my life 6 months ago. Help me find the JOY in THIS life, and in THIS day and to know that it is from you, and it is enough. AMEN … Nadia Bolz-Weber

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

Wonder Wednesday

I wonder why??

So many times in politics, candidates, and advertisements about a candidate, complain that a politician has changed her/his mind on an issue. Isn’t that a good thing? They had an opinion, were presented with an alternative view or reality, and, after doing some thoughtful research & thinking about it, changed their mind for the good of humanity.

According to Brene Brown, that is the definition of a daring leader vs an armored leader. The big shift here is from wanting to “be right” to wanting to “get it right.”

Don’t we want leaders that want to “get it right” and not always “be right?!”

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

Motivational Monday … One Day

One day this is going to be over – can you imagine that day? How we’ll come out into the sun and laugh and hug and sing and dance and hold hands?
I’m living for that day. It’ll be like nothing we’ve experienced before.

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

Motivational Monday … same

“It is important to realize that at the fundamental level we are all the same human beings and that everything else is secondary” … Dalai Lama

Today is your opportunity to start building the tomorrow
you envision for the world.

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

Fired Up Friday

It’s taken me a little time to gather my thoughts on the unbelievable events that have taken place the past few weeks in our country. I’m usually pretty impatient and just wanna go, go, go…get mad, speak my mind and react. My heart has been breaking, along with much of the country. How did we get here, where do we go?

In this instance, I decided to take the advice of some very intelligent, activist, voices … Ibram X Kendi and Ava DuVernay are a couple of the many… and step back, listen, read and learn.

My personal ethos, as shown at the bottom of every email and on this blog, is “you cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails.” Well, maybe that’s not always true! It is time that we write to the atty. generals, mayors, police chiefs and those in power in each city where injustice has been done at the hands of the police and let them know … You DO have the power to direct the wind at this pivotal point in history.

Knowledge is power! Here are some links to information that I found helpful in understanding the Black Lives Matter movement, in hopes that I can make a difference in some way…

·      Follow Ibram X. Kendi @ibramxk on instagram or twitter and
listen to his thoughts on “Feelings Advocacy.” Feelings Advocacy is
not enough. Once you feel better through your advocacy, donating, etc. (which are all great!), don’t stop…move past your feelings, keep your foot on the gas and keep going to enact real policy change. I’d also recommend following BigMommaOfficial on Instagram for some in-your-face truths that black people experience … you have no idea!!

  • Go here and educate yourself about what Juneteenth (which is today!) really commemorates. It should be a national holiday.
  • Go here for a list of books to educate yourself about history and become an advocate.

·      Law Enforcement Accountability Project (LEAP) started by Ava DuVernay

·      Sign this petition to rename the Edmund Pettus Bridge to align with human dignity & values (please click& read who Edmund Pettus was)

·      If you only watch one movie on the subject, Please watch 13th on Netflix by Ava Duvernay  (free through June) Netflix has an entire section of BLM suggestions they are streaming free this month. You might also want to add Selma and/or Just Mercy to your list.

·      If you or someone you know is not registered to vote PLEASE do it here …  whenweallvote.org

I’ve heard it said a few times in the past few weeks … this is not a sprint, it’s a marathon, and we need to keep running until there is equality for all. It will take a long time…it took a long time to get us here…but, as Margaret Meade is quoted as saying, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world: indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.

Be the change you wish to see in the world!

Monday Musings

Interracial marriage and The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day ...

Until the killing of a black mother’s son is considered as important as the killing of a white mother’s son, we who believe in freedom cannot rest. … Ella Baker

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

Motivational Monday … Imagine

If you can imagine the worst thing, you can imagine the best thing. Both things are imaginary. Say out loud the positive outcome and repeat until it feels real.

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!