Divorce, Choices and Daily Affirmations

 

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I’d like to share a little of my history, which includes my divorce, however, this will be one of the few times I reference it because this is a positive blog and there’s not much positive to say about divorce.  Two & a half years ago my husband moved everything out while I was out of town for the weekend, picked me up from the airport, and, well, we never slept in the same bed again.  It was extremely painful.  We tried for several months to work things out in therapy, but at some point it was clear that my 27 year marriage was over.  Now I had to make a choice.  I could choose to wallow and feel sorry for myself, or I could choose to be grateful for the 33 years (and two great kids) we had together.  Of course, family & friends are the main reason I got through it, but daily affirmations & choosing happiness went a long way in making it easier to navigate.

In order to try to lift the fog from my life I started journaling, which I’ve never done before.  It was so incredibly helpful to get my thoughts down on paper and out of my head.  I highly recommend it when you’re at a crossroads in your life.  I also started collecting daily affirmations.  One of the first things I did was to put the serenity prayer on my desktop wallpaper…. “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference….Reinhold Niebuhr”  I, literally, read it and said it every morning when I sat down at my computer… and it’s still on here today.  Very powerful words!

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In choosing to be positive I had quite a revelation when friends, & family, questioned the end of our relationship. If it could happen to us, a very PDA couple, what about them? My answer was, & still is…”I hope you are lucky enough to have 33 great years with the same person…and two amazing kids. Some people have terrible marriages that last less than 5 yrs.” We weren’t just lucky; we worked at it, as you have to do in marriage.  We had a great long run, but in the end choices are made that change the trajectory of lives.  My kids are both healthy and in very happy relationships of their own….and for that, I am very grateful.

In the end it’s how you choose to react to life’s changes (along with some help from the daily reading of positive affirmations) that become your own self fulfilling prophecy…at least that’s how it worked for me.

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Here are two of my favorite daily affirmations… “If you’re grateful for what you have, you’ll always have enough…unknown.” and “You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails….Albert Einstein”   I’ve accumulated so many positive affirmations they could probably make for a really long blog post, but instead, I’m going to just randomly post them under the “daily affirmations” heading above and I truly hope that they strike a cord with you and help get you through some of your own crazy times.

PS… I’m new to the blogging world, so most of the categories above don’t have any content…YET.  They will…as soon as I get some more posts going….stay tuned!

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!

I like sharing…I like change!

 

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I like sharing….and I like change.  Sometimes both of those get me in trouble, but most of the time I enjoy the adventure they take me on and the things I learn along the way.  So, I decided to start a blog! I’ll share my love of rowing, photography, entertaining, cooking, travel, positive thinking (affirmations) and just the basic musings of my life as I go along.

I truly believe in the power of positive thinking, daily affirmations and the choices we make in life.  I’ll be sharing some wacky things that have happened to me and how I got through them and also some great adventures I’ve had..some old, some new.

I come from a family of seven, two parents and four siblings.  I can honestly say that I had the most idyllic childhood…probably because I’m the fourth of five and by the time our parents got to me & my younger sister they said “just raise yourselves, we’re tired!”  We paid attention to how they raised the older three and tried to learn from their mishaps, their manners and their example.  It’s weird how five people growing up in the same household can have completely different recollections of the same event…and I’m sure some of my “fabulous” memories will be disputed by my siblings as well!  But I love our family stories and hope you’ll find some of them amusing too.

I also love photography…the composition you can get from looking through a lens and the moment in time that you can capture.  I will share some amazing sunrises that I am honored to witness (by getting up at 5am to be on the water to row at 6am) and which so few get to enjoy.  I’ll also be posting travel pics from my adventures around the globe.  I’m not as well traveled as many, but I aspire to get there…and I’ll take you along for the ride.

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One of the greatest joys I have in life is sharing my home with family & friends.  I love cooking and entertaining, whether it’s just a friend dropping by for a quick chat and a glass of wine, or a dinner party for 12 or more.  I’ve felt this way whether I’ve lived in less than 500 sf or almost 3000 sf.  People coming together to share a meal and conversation is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves….and our friends.

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Travel…aaaahhhh travel!!!  The anticipation of a place never visited is almost too much for me to comprehend. When I’m going to a new destination I love trolling the internet for all the information and “tips” I can get about a city/country.  Some might say that it takes the spontaneity out of a trip, but I plan & get the lay of the land, and I always leave time to wander aimlessly through back alleys to discover unchartered territory that you can’t find in a guide book.  I LOVE living like a local and almost never stay in a hotel…preferring a VRBO apartment or a home exchange to really feel like I belong.

Rowing! …an amazing sport…. ballet on water…the feel of water rushing underneath you….I could go on and on (as my teammates & I do incessantly), but I’d like you to come back and read more posts so let’s just say that there will be at least one or two entries that include rowing…some coupled with travel & life lessons learned on the water and some just as the sun is rising in my own backyard.

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Okay…so that’s my first blog post…YAY!!  Come along as I delve & explore these and other topics that  life throws my way.

You cannot direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails!